Sex Tips for Men… from Women....(Be a better lover and she'll be sure to keep coming back for more!)

Listen up, gentlemen!

The women have spoken when it comes to sex and the following are some lessons we wish you would learn. Master these principles and you'll be a better lover... and leave her wanting more!

Ladies, consider leaving this one up on the screen for him to read!
Foreplay is muy importante!Unless it's a quickie (which should not always be the case!), don't just go for the gold! The work up is an integral part of lovemaking! Ideally, foreplay should be an all-day, ongoing affair. If the thought scares you, don't worry. An all day affair does not mean you have to make out literally all day. It means you need to learn to incorporate the power of suggestion into areas you wouldn't normally consider sexual. This is because women, as a general rule, have a broader range of activities that will arouse them... and the longer you work them, the better you'll do.

Try this:
Build up the anticipation throughout the day in order to enjoy a hot passion-filled night. Foreplay can encompass a wide range of activities: sending your lover a naughty text message, slipping a note in her lunch or delighting her with some Gerber daisies. Don't be afraid to tell her you find something she does sexy. Even a suggestive look can go a long way - especially if it's something secret the two of you share in a room filled with people. These small but essential things build trust and keep love from wilting.

Moving to the bedroom...
Why is it that many men don't use their hands to really explore a woman's body? Don't kiss and go straight for the panties with a short detour at her breasts. If you are to blame for this kind of unbecoming behavior, spend time touching her, massaging her and loving her entire body. Use your hands; a woman loves a man with dexterous hands and alas, most women need prolonged stimulation to reach complete arousal. Don't feel inadequate because of this - it's just a fact. Enjoy it!

Don't roll over and pass out immediately after sex!!!

While it may take a Herculean effort to stay awake, you have to at least try. Consider that during lovemaking, a woman has let you inside of her -- both physically and figuratively. So it's no wonder she usually likes to nuzzle or share sweet words afterward. It's difficult when a woman goes to fetch a towel and returns to find her man already in dreamland. Ladies, if this does happen, keep in mind that he has just lost his "chi" and as a result, he gets sleepy. Very sleepy. According to Taoists, the only reason one should ejaculate or allow the loss of Chi to occur is for the purpose of having children. Whether this makes sense to you or not, redirecting sexual energy (sex without the man ejaculating) results in awesome lovemaking and allows him to use his energy to heal and rejuvenate the both of you.

Share the responsibility for birth control.

Don't give her a hard time for using a condom or pressure her to go on the pill. First, the pill works differently with differnt women and if she is concerned about using synthetic hormones you should applaud her awareness! Help buy the condoms and share in any costs. This tip may also mean going with her to the gynecologist if she wants you to.

Take a genuine interest.
See your fingers for what they are: fingers!In the heat of the moment, resist the temptation of using your fingers as though you were excavating for gold. Fingers are pointier than penises -- especially if you have nails. Ow! If you really want to please her, bend your second and third fingers and feel around for her G-spot. Purposely slow down as the intensity speeds up. If she gets excited this doesn't mean you should go faster. Build the tension. Whatever way you approach the endeavor, before you reach for her, use the nail cutter first and always wash your hands!

Be prepared to go the distance when you go down.

Women enjoy it when men go down on them but it often takes a while to get comfortable and receive. A man, meanwhile, must be gentle and patient and realize that the vagina is like a flower that literally opens up and blossoms. The tongue is a very sexy organ so use it -- and don't forget that the vagina itself doesn't have enough nerve endings for orgasms to occur. Therefore clitoral action is imperative.

Be gentle...

At least where it counts!Have you ever had a man twist your nipples so hard you thought he was trying to tune into the latest episode of the Sopranos? Sinking your teeth into skin is even more painful. I remember a man once who bit my butt cheek so hard, he made me bleed. "You're like a juicy steak," he then said. I asked him and his incisors to please leave...

After all, guys, perhaps one of the most important things you can remember if you want to be a better lover is this: Women are not pieces of meat!

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The Lesson of Letting Go...If a romance isn’t meant to be… you can’t make it so...

If you're like most people, you've experienced longing over a past relationship. You may have spent weeks, months, years even pining over someone, convinced that if you just tried hard enough, you could make it all work out and live happily ever after. If you find yourself in this situation (or you've been there before), you're not alone. But there are a few key things you have to remember if you ever want to start feeling better, get back out there – and find the right person. First, while we all do create our own realities, we don't create someone else's. A relationship requires two equally committed parties -- not to mention the right timing -- in order to have a fighting chance.

This may sound simple. After all, two requirements isn't a lot, right? But as anyone who has managed to reconcile with a long lost lover will tell you (high school sweethearts who meet up years later post-divorces come to mind), timing is everything! Men, in particular, often want to have certain aspects of their lives in order before they'll settle down. So it doesn't matter who or what comes along, if they're not ready to settle down, they're not ready. And no matter what you say or do, you can't change that.

Contrary to popular belief, the same goes for the ladies -- particularly if they're mired in past romances gone wrong. Mr. Perfect could be standing right in front of a heartbroken woman and she'd be highly unlikely to notice – no matter how grand his gestures. So what does this mean? It means you've got to get present. The only time that matters is NOW! This is the secret to letting go.

Now, that doesn't mean it's going to be easy. Sometimes what's right for the now isn't pleasant. It means mourning. Losing a relationship is like a mini-death, and depending on how close the bond was, it may take a while to get over. Some may advise that the best way to get over a break up is to get right back out there and start dating, but the opposite is true for one very simple reason. What you don't mourn now, you'll wind up mourning later – and longer -- because the pain will be compounded by whatever has transpired in between.

Allow yourself the time to heal. And while you're healing, use the time to grow. Look at yourself and your behaviors instead of analyzing the other person (since you can't affect/change or influence them anyway!). Don't waste time on what you could have done differently to get a different outcome, but rather think about what you'd like to change for the next time you get involved. This way you can bring your best you to the relationship table.

Lastly, it's most important that you understand no one but you can make you happy. This sounds trite when you're in the heat of heartbreak, but it's true. Expecting that someone else can make or break your happiness assures you only that you'll never be happy. Not for the long run anyway because contentment comes from within. Consider how you can best take care of yourself (eating right, exercising, getting out with your friends and also taking adequate time alone come to mind) and make an honest effort to do so. And while it may not help now to hear this, know that it's true: with time, things get better. No matter how intense you feel your love was, how different and unique and special, others have felt that way and moved on. Trust in the universe. If you do the work, you will reap the rewards – though they may look different than what you expect. One thing however, is for certain.You will love again and you should start by loving yourself.

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